How to Know What You Want: Shifting Through the Noise
We have all been asked the question: “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Some of us know instantly, but most of us have no idea. In today’s world, it’s difficult to decipher what you actually want. With constant input from social media, teachers, parents, and other students, it’s easy to lose sight of your true path. It’s easy to get stuck in this cycle of comparison and imitation, but there is a way to break free and discover what you truly want.
The Problem
Before we solve the problem, we must genuinely understand it. Why is it so hard to know what you want? Why can’t you decide what your career will be? What goals will you have? Who are you? Continuous social media overload and viewing the highlights of others' lives can lead to comparison. How are you able to discover what you want if you consistently compare your life to others? Additionally, opinions from parents, teachers, and friends can cloud your judgement and make your self-discovery journey even more difficult. This can lead to you chasing achievements for validation, rather than for your own passion. Before you can chase goals, you have to know which ones are truly yours.
The Self-Discovery Process
Step 1: Quiet the Noise
Take breaks from social media.
Journal or go on walks alone.
Listen for what feels right, not what looks right online.
Step 2: Ask Real Questions (Perfect for journaling!)
What excites me even when no one is watching?
What kind of person do I want to become, not just what do I want to have?
What is most valuable to me? (ex: impact, freedom, creativity, etc.)
Step 3: Experiment and Reflect
You can’t figure it all out in your head – try new things!
Join clubs, start projects, volunteer.
Notice what gives you energy vs. what drains it. What makes you feel alive?
It’s Okay if You Don’t Know Yet
Discovering who you are and who you want to be isn’t easy, and you don’t have to have it all figured out immediately. Clarity comes from action, not pressure. Try new things, step out of your comfort zone, and stay consistent. Self-discovery is a process. You don’t have to know immediately, and you don’t have to make a permanent, one-time decision.
But remember this: You will not find yourself through scrolling or listening to the noise around you. You find yourself by showing up everyday for you. Have the courage to define your own version of success.
This week, take 15 minutes to think and journal about what you want, not what you think you should want. You might be surprised by what comes up. Comment below or DM me: What’s one thing you truly want for yourself right now? I would love to hear from you!
If you are interested in hearing more about self-discovery and meeting your potential, check out one of my newest blog posts: “You Were Made for More: How to Maximize Your Potential.”
RISE. LEAD. SUCCEED.
Love,
Juliet and Study Strong